Understanding

She should have been mad,

but she knew from experience

those who cause others the most pain,

have so much pain of their own.

She sat back,

she wouldn’t stoop to the same level

She’d rather hope and pray

for the difficult people

to feel less pain

and experience more love.

For she knew how it felt to hurt.

She wouldn’t wish that on anyone

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via Daily Prompt: Snippet

The alarm went off for the 5th time, she had to get up. She wasn’t sure if it was wise to set so many alarms, but she continued to do it anyways. She crawled out of bed and made her way to the bathroom. “You can do it,” she said to herself before splashing some water on her face. Life had been rather challenging recently, yet she had to stay strong.

Before she walked out the door she glanced back into her living room. Memories scattered the wall, she had much to be thankful for. She knew that things would get better, she just had to keep going.

She stood at the door of her class to greet her students as they entered the class. She knew that although her life was tough, her students also faced different challenges. Challenges they weren’t sure of how to face. She tucked her own issues aside, her students needed her. The truth was, she needed them to.

High school was only a snippet of their life, but she was determined to make an impact on the lives of her students. So every day she worked at showing them her strength, so they could find the strength to always keep going.

One-way ticket…

via Daily Prompt: One-Way   

It had been a long day, the world was weighing on my shoulders. Nothing seemed to give, no matter how hard I tried something went wrong. I looked in the mirror of the cheap diner on 5th street. I wasn’t sure I recognized the woman looking back at me. When did I become this person? I used to find pride in the strength I saw in myself. Now I felt used up and broken down. I had forgotten the fire and passion I had for life. Why didn’t I feel it slowly going out? Why didn’t I stop it? I splashed water on my face and stared into the eyes of the women I had become. This isn’t who I was meant to be, this was not the path I was meant to continue on. I might have become ashes, but maybe that was okay. I lifted my shirt, there was my phoenix tattoo bright and vibrant. I let my hand rub my tattooed skin. It was time to regain my strength, time to see the beautiful woman who had allowed the burdens of life bring her down. I was not broken or weak… I cleaned myself up and looked in the mirror again, again there was fire in my eyes. It was time to use the one-way ticket out of this mess I was calling life. There would be no going back. I remembered who I was, it was time to live my life.

Karma? It bites…

via Daily Prompt: Bite 

As I scrolled through Instagram an image caught my eye. It said, “Remember, what you do now will come back to you in the future. Life has a funny way of making you deal with what you make others go through.” I don’t know who wrote it but it got me thinking. Karma, life biting you in the ass…

I thought it would have made me feel good to know that how others have made me feel would eventually come back to them, but it didn’t. I started to think about my path and all that I had to learn over the years. I have had plenty of ups and downs and I have grown a lot. I haven’t always considered the feelings of others, but I have also done the exact opposite and worried about the feelings of others too much.

I have grown as a person but there were some dark times that I would not wish on anyone. I believe that the personal battles many of us face are hard enough and I wouldn’t want any added pain or stress for anyone. In the past I might have felt differently.

Yes, many of the things we do come back to bite us in the ass. But at this point in my life I would rather they not bite anyone too hard.Odds are that the person who has caused you pain, or is causing you pain, is also struggling with something.  Life is too short and the world already has enough going wrong, I would rather see more things go right.

Be the reason someone smiles…

We live in a world where relationships tend to fail more often than not. Why is this? Is it the need to always have something new? Do we get bored? Are we even trying? I’ve been told men love the chase. What happens after the chase? Once the man finally wins you, do they find it easier to forget why they wanted you in the first place?

When people are first dating there is a large amount of texting and sweet things. We want to show our best sides. We do whatever to show them why they should choose us. I wish more people realized that the things you do to get someone are the same things you should do to keep them.

When we lose sight of why we chose to date them we lose sight of why we should stay. We stop doing the sweet things our significant other loves and we end up making them feel insignificant. Once you are in a relationship with someone you love to be with you should make sure you don’t ever stop trying. Stop overthinking, stop being inconsistent, stop changing your mind because you forget the real reason why you chose them.

Think about this, how would you feel if your son or daughter was being treated the way you are treating your significant other?

We live in a world filled with hate, we need more happiness and love. Be the reason someone smiles.

The Ripple Effect

Every action we take causes a ripple effect. Whether it’s good or bad, those around us and the people they are around are all affected. Have you ever taken the time to consider how your actions could affect someone else?

I’ve really been thinking about how I can cause positive ripples in the lives of others. A positive attitude can be contagious. I find that it is extremely challenging to not smile when someone takes the time to smile at you. I find that laughter can touch your soul. Instead of focusing on the negative, why don’t we focus on ways to stay positive? Why not look for ways to help, encourage, support, or guide? Why not look for ways to encourage laughter that reaches the depth of our souls? Isn’t that what life is about?

It’s safe to say that life is made up of many moments. Experience what you can, forget about what others think, learn about yourself, love and laugh.

In my world sarcasm, caffeine, and communication make life interesting. Not only do all three help me at work, but they help me connect with friends and family. My friends are equally as twisted and loving and talkative. Find the ones who connect with you and understand your twisted humor, then never let go. Continue to cause positive ripples while you enjoy the adventure of life. Take the bull by the horns and ride the hell out of it. Life is what you make of it. In order to get, you have to do.

Start now and take some action.

Karma?

As I scrolled through Instagram an image caught my eye. It said, “Remember, what you do now will come back to you in the future. Life has a funny way of making you deal with what you make others go through.” I don’t know who wrote it but it got me thinking.

I thought it would have made me feel good to know that how others have made me feel would eventually come back to them, but it didn’t. I started to think about my path and all that I had to learn over the years. I have had plenty of ups and downs and I have grown a lot. I haven’t always considered the feelings of others, but I have also done the exact opposite and worried about the feelings of others too much.

I have grown as a person but there were some dark times that I would not wish on anyone. I believe that the personal battles many of us face are hard enough and I wouldn’t want any added pain or stress for anyone. In the past I might have felt differently.

Yes, many of the things we do come back to bite us in the ass. But at this point in my life I would rather they not bite anyone too hard.Odds are that the person who has caused you pain, or is causing you pain, is also struggling with something.  Life is too short and the world already has enough going wrong, I would rather see more things go right.

 

Everyone is an ex…

The song by Gwen Stefani comes to mind, “I kinda always knew I’d end up your ex girlfriend…” The truth is, the majority of adults are an ex and have an ex.

Every relationship that has ended has it’s reasons, not all of them are good. We hope that we hold a special place and we fear that whoever they date next will be better than us. Here’s the thing, it does not matter. That is not what we should worry about. Who cares what someone else thinks? Just because someone is better for your ex doesn’t mean they are better than you! There is a difference.

Does it matter what your ex is doing? Honestly, you could be doing the same thing. You could be having more fun, but again how much does it matter if you are doing better than someone else? If everyone is an ex at least once in their life, why would we want to continuously beat ourselves up because of it?

Thanks to social media everyone has access to what their ex’s are doing, so we can dwell. Even better, we can see what our significant others ex’s are doing because that tends to be a thing. We are all so focused on what everyone else is doing that we lose sight of what we are doing.

The ex is an ex for a reason, which means that I am admitting that I am also an ex for a reason. That is the sad truth, the reason could simply be that there is a better match. Sometimes we learn things the hard way and maybe other times the other person had a lesson to learn.

The thing is that we know how it feels to be on both sides, so be the ex but don’t beat yourself up because you are. Have an ex, but don’t punish them because of it.

Eventually you learn that if your ex can find happiness then you can too.

Hmmmm….All you need is love…in a world that wants you to believe differently.

 

 

Do we really think that the best way to remain unhurt is to avoid love, stay single, or not get married? Or are we used to seeing things end so we all just think that is how it is? More often we hear about how someone’s heart was broken, someone was cheated on, someone just isn’t happy anymore, and the list goes on and on. All of those things happen, it’s true. We can’t stop people from hurting each other, but we can choose to stop hurting and or causing others to hurt.

What if we all started to see that what matters is love and enjoying life with someone special? What if we let down our walls and started seeing things from different perspectives? Maybe we all feel so hard to love because we are afraid of being vulnerable. Nobody wants to get hurt, yet we hold onto the past and everything that hurt and that causes fear. I wish that it wasn’t so challenging to let go of fear, it is our enemy.

Love is truly worth it and I wish more felt that way. The Beatles had it right, all you need is love. I truly believe that everyone deserves happiness and true love.

Loving someone might be one of the hardest things to do, but it is worth it. Truly loving someone means you love ALL of them and that you want the best for them. As much as I hate the thought of hurting, I truly enjoy seeing someones face light up.

The beginning should be loving yourself. Truly looking in the mirror and reminding yourself that you are worth it and that you are amazing every single day. Say it even if you laugh because it is silly, say it until you believe it wholeheartedly. Even those who portray themselves as strong and fully confident struggle with loving themselves. Behind closed doors remember your past doesn’t define you, failure can only happen if you give up and never try again, you are worth it, you are amazing, and love is possible.

Once you do that find someone you can grow old with and not someone that fits “what others think you should have.” Laugh a lot and enjoy every single day. Maybe it’t not about “I do.” Maybe it’s “I will choose you every day because I love you and life would suck without you.”

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